Salut! My name is Melody, and I'm a 25 year-old from Ottawa, the capital city of Canada. Ripplez13 on most other platforms. She/Her. Feel free to take a look around, I don't bite! ... . .-. . -. .. - -.--
enough reclaiming slurs, I think in 2023 we should reclaim nascar. they banned the confederate flag on all properties & their stance on lgbtq+ isn’t just performative bc in 2013 they fined a driver 10k for using a homophobic slur, condemned indiana in a statement for an anti lgbt law, and partnered w carolina’s lgbt+ chamber of conference in 2022. nascar was founded by anti-cop moonshiners/bootleggers who drove suped-up fords to out-run the police. #yaaascar
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To this day, my favorite argument I ever had was with my Nascar-loving family about how a thin blue line flag on a Nascar is antithetical to the core tenets of Nascar. There is no organization more rooted in ACAB than Nascar. Literally, the only reason it exists was that a bunch of moonshining families had to build cars that could outrun the cops while on supply runs during the Prohibition Era. The goal was to make the car look like a regular vehicle so they could pick up supplies or drop off illegal alcohol without arousing suspicion. But if the cops were on you all you had to do was put the pedal to the metal and that little truck could outrun them with no problems. And of course, families would be in competition over who made the best alcohol, and whose car was fastest. So, they would have races on the weekends. When prohibition was lifted, the races continued. And that is why we have Nascar.
It really frustrates me how people look at American car culture and scoff at it. Formula One racing is more exciting and more dynamic to watch, but the history of it is not as interesting: a bunch of rich assholes who made specialized cars for racing. And to this day, it is still a rich man’s sport. Whereas Nascar was about a bunch of so-called hicks in the backwoods who used some basic hand tools and trial and error to make a junker into a racecar.
So it seems, via virtue of me owning a sewing machine and knowing how to use it, I’ve somehow accidentally ended up as the tailor for my co-workers (hemming pants for $5 a pair.)
Co workers; “Man we used to take them to the tailor but that’s kinda pricey :(”
Me; “Why don’t you just hem them yourself? That’s what I do?”
Them; “Wait you know how to hem your own?”
Me, slightly puzzled. “Yeah, it’s not that hard. Takes like, 5 minutes.”
Them; “You can sew that fast???”
Me; “Well, the sewing machine can. Takes more time to get them cut and pinned up to the right length honestly.”
Them; “YOU HAVE A SEWING MACHINE??? AND KNOW HOW TO USE IT??? HOW MUCH WOULD YOU CHARGE TO DO MY PANTS?”
Me, even more confused, thinking that ‘hemming a pair of pants’ was basically the simplest thing ever; “Uhhh…yeah, I dunno, like five bucks?”
Them; “OH YOU ARE SO HANDY HERE I’VE GOT FOUR PAIRS.”
And that’s how I learned that no one apparently knows how to hem up their stuff any longer.
I mean, no one knows how to hem things any longer. They can only hem them shorter.
I wish they taught a class on what being a normal human is like
Like, the normal amount of pain is zero. The normal amount of wishing you weren’t ever born is zero. Food isn’t supposed to itch or hurt*. Going numb (any time outside sitting in one position too long) isn’t normal. Passing out isn’t normal. Normal people take like 10-20 minutes to fall asleep, and sleep like 6-9 hours. You’re supposed to get one period a month, which is manageable with a few tampons or pads a day and lasts 3-6 days.
These are all things I had to find out later, like a moron.
(fibromyalgia, depression, allergies, cataplexy, narcolepsy, PCOS and endometriosis)
*spicy food is supposed to hurt?
Sneezing when you see bright light? Normal.
Sneezing hurting your ribs so bad it makes breathing hard? Not normal.
It’s normal to hear a fluttering in your ears when you yawn. It’s not normal for your ears to hurt so much your teeth hurt too.
It’s normal to sleep badly and wake up sore every now and then. It’s not normal to lay awake because pain is keeping you up.
It’s normal to be nervous to see a doctor. It’s not normal to put off care because of your anxitey
So many times I’ve realized something about my body is super messed up when I’m like “you know how when X, Y?” And all my friends are like…no. I don’t experience X.
A couple good additions from the notes:
(image description: screenshot of a reply to this post from fiddlysticks that says “Took me up until very recently to learn headaches aren’t supposed to feel heavy and fuzzy, make you extra sensitive to light and sound, be debilitating, and last about 3 days lol)
(image description: screenshot of a reply to this post from raw-squid that says “Also like period cramps arent supposed to literally wake you up, even with the strongest over the counter painkillers :) )
Some additions from my own experience:
-Crunchy foods like toast or pizza are apparently not supposed to cut up the inside of your mouth and make you bleed- that’s unusually fragile skin and might indicate a connective tissue disorder
-Wearing jeans or bulky jackets isn’t supposed to make you feel like you’re dying- that’s a sensory processing difference, more specifically tactile defensiveness
-Ribs are not supposed to dislocate when you laugh too hard (connective tissue disorder again)
-Waking up exhausted every single day isn’t supposed to happen- could be any number of underlying conditions
-Standing up is not supposed to cause your heart rate to skyrocket and you to get super dizzy- that’s dysautonomia, anemia, or something similar
-Constantly sitting like a pretzel as a teen or adult mean nothing, but if other people are baffled by how you’re comfortable in those positions, you might be hypermobile or neurodivergent or both!
-The normal amount of seeing double is almost none! And even if you’ve seen double your whole life, the eye doctor can still prescribe you glasses that fix it
-Have a few “floaters” in your vision is normal, having constant showers of them that interfere with your vision is not
Basically, just because everyone in your family experiences something doesn’t mean it’s normal, it might mean there’s something genetic going on and you should ask a “control group” friend
• Food isn’t supposed to make your mouth itch. That’s an allergy
• Coffee isn’t supposed to put you to sleep
• Your period is not supposed to be more painful than labor (found that out with child #2)
• Your friends do not hate you. Yes, even when they’re too busy to answer your text. That’s RSD
• 100 and 1000 are not the same number. Most people don’t transpose numbers regularly. Most people do not find Algebra easier than arithmetic because variables mean less numbers to accidentally mix up. That’s dyscalculia
• Lights in the distance should be round. If they stretch like stars have your eyes checked for astigmatism
Everyone always talked about halos and I didn’t realize until I saw a picture of normal vs astigmatism to realize how much it affects me. The points take up my whole field of vision, top to bottom.
most people cant hear the buzz/hum of large household appliances or lights being on, thats autism
if it takes you an hour or more to fall asleep on average thats probably either autism or adhd, but could be other stuff, if meds dont improve it go to a sleep specialist to see
some people simply do not have 24 hour circadian rhythms. if you find the time you are asleep vs awake every day slowly crawls forward until for some periods you are nocturnal and then after another while you are diurnal again, this is probably you
spicy food causes your mouth to be more sensitive to heat, so if youre feeling pain/discomfort thats not heat related while eating it youre probably allergic to something in the meal
if you find yourself wishing you could be a different gender you can just try that to see if you like it
most people can just do things. if you feel completely unable to do something even if you want/need to and have to trick yourself into it, thats executive dysfunction. could be adhd could be some other mental illness
if caffeine puts you to sleep thats also adhd
if you regularly completely forget the plots things you saw/read/played a year or more ago/have similar memory loss issues with other things in your life, that too is almost definitely adhd (but if your memory loss is more extensive there could be other factors too)
The normal odds of making it through any given meal without vomiting immediately afterwards are 100%.
- already owns $200 sewing machine, $100 dress form, full supply of thread/haberdashery
“You can recreate your favorite fast food menu items at home for less money and more flavor,” says the person with $3k in Le Creuset cookware, six professional kitchen appliances, living in the heart of a large city with ample grocery selection, sponsored by Hello Fresh and Skillshare.
“You can cook this full course meal for less than five dollars!” says the person who acts like you can buy $0.001 worth of salt, $0.05 worth of flour, and $1.27 worth of pork.
I’m sorry @chigrima but this just passed peer review:
The full rotation of the Moon as seen by NASA’s Lunar Reconnaissance Orbiter.
When I was a kid my mum had one of those great big oversized Reader’s Digest World Atlases you still see pop up in thrift stores from time to time, and, fun fact, at the time our edition had been published, a few years before my birth, we had not yet orbited the back of the moon, and so while the front of the moon was shown in great detail (humanity having studied it for tens of thousands of years), the far side, the dark side of the moon, the side that is permanently facing away from us, that side was mostly just blank, with a very few details around the edges that we are able to see from here due to the slight wobble.
Seeing the dark side of the moon is that recent to us, as a species. And here it is, just another thing to pause on for a moment, and smile at, and go, “Neat!” before we scroll on to something else.
The present blows my mind, sometimes. I kind of love it.